As I have read the articles about the interview this week, I have noticed how loath people are to address the issue of Meghan's mental health (except for Piers Morgan.) And I certainly understand that, given Diana's fate, Carolyn Flack's fate, so many young people who feel that they have just lost too much.
No one should wish Meghan ill, or blame her for being, well, foolish: even the most competent-seeming person can have dark nights of the soul. I agree with Phillips (writer in The London Times) though that her dark nights shouldn't all be laid at the feet of the RF. She miscalculated what marrying a Royal would mean, she didn't understand how lonely it could be living in a foreign country, perhaps even she found that the man that she thought could protect her couldn't and she would have to take matters into her own hands, cut her losses and go home. With him in tow because she couldn't leave him behind.
No own should blame HER for something that didn't work out but, equally, how can we blame the people who were affected by her choices? The RF didn't recruit her, Harry chose her. The person who warned Harry to think long and hard wasn't being racist, he was being realistic about how tough being the spouse of a RF member is, just as my own relatives were when I thought of marrying someone who was going to pose a lot of challenges in my own life. Love conquers all we think. Ummm, no, no, it doesn't. I went crying to my family after I made my choice and things were hard but, really, what could they have done? Turn their own world upside down for the person who just wasn't thinking about that they wanted from life?
One thing that I think is missing in a lot of the conversation around this is Harry's behavior. As so many have said, he had so much experience in mental health, why did SHE feel she needed to protect HIM? Is it because Harry is still that little boy? And if that's what this is about, then the conversation--for those of us who want to pursue it--should range wider than simply "the nasty racist RF" and discuss why we blame others for the poor choices that we make in spouses and life in general. We think that Meghan and Harry are happy with their life in California--they are certainly trying to insist they are--but it wasn't what they wanted. Certainly not what Harry wanted. I still remember that statement of his, the first Christmas that Meghan was introduced "She has the family she never had before." What had they told each other?
I do think that Harry and Meghan will do fine for the moment. Unless there comes a point where she realizes that, without the RF, she really doesn't need him anymore to become a strong, independent and happy woman. That he actually saps her strength. And, yes, I am projecting on them based on a lot of history that I personally have seen/been through. I completely admit (and hope, for Harry's sake) that I might be wrong. Wallis never left Edward/David, let's hope that that part of history does repeat itself, that Meghan will stay loyal to Harry and that he will grow up and be the man that Meghan needs as well.
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